Validation is one of the best tools you can use in seduction. High level seduction is getting her to chase you. One of the things she’s chasing is your validation and you need to learn how to weaponise your validation.
What is validation?
Validation is positive feedback. It could be a compliment or a positive statement about her. This is direct validation.
Also note that your behaviour and conduct can constitute validation, which is indirect validation. The following is a brief list of the same:
- Texting and/or calling her everyday.
- Setting up dates often (more than twice a week).
- Presenting her with gifts.
- Giving her more physical affection than she is giving you.
Asian Women and Validation
Many dating coaches in the West suggest never validating your woman. We think that this is not the best idea in general and especially with Asian women. Remember, Asian women skew towards preferring Beta traits more so than Western women. One of the ways of presenting effective Beta traits is to validate your woman the right way at the right time.
When you validate her correctly she’ll feel safe and secure with you. This is the ideal result in a long term relationship. All our strategies for cultivating Alpha traits within you can cause her a lot of anxiety and insecurity. As discussed in other posts, passing her inevitable shit tests is a good way to assuage her anxiety but using correct Validation Strategy alongside that as a combination is the best solution to consolidate your SMV in her eyes.
Validation Strategy
Delay your validation as long as possible. Validation is a barometer as to how valuable you truly are. Making it easy to get it makes you seem low value – as though any girl can get it. It doesn’t make her feel special.
When she asks you if you like her outfit, tell her it’s not ugly or that you don’t hate it. When she asks you if you missed her tell her you’re happy she’s here with you now. She’ll usually repeat the question. You could just ignore the second time or another tactic is to just smile, hug her, kiss and then change the topic.
When she goes out of her way for you to do something really special validate her. When she behaves really well validate her. Save the validation for truly exceptional cases for the big things you want her to continue doing (not small things).
“Never allow her to figure out when your validation will come. Make it seem random and unexpected, it’ll drive her crazy not knowing how to get it at will”
Ari Dating
Rationing your validation will make her chase you indefinitely. You know the guy who always validates his girlfriend? She’s bored of him. He’s no longer a challenge. She’s figured him out and if she’s managed to do that he must be low SMV. Making your validation difficult to get is one of the biggest secrets of high level seduction.
We know that we’re making this sound easy but it really is! Raising SMV takes work but Validation Strategy is all about what you say at what time. Make sure you utilise this strategy to the max.
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