This is one of the concepts I think the Redpill takes too far/seriously, but it definitely has some useful implications.
When humans were evolving, they had to develop a sexual strategy that best facilitated the continuation of genes. For women, this meant getting the best genes possible (Alpha), whilst securing resources to ensure nurturing and safety (Beta). The alpha-beta dichotomy represents the traits that a woman finds desirable in a pair-bond or mating partner.
Alpha Traits
Alpha traits relate to superior genetics (height, fitness and symmetry) and behaviour (domineering, leadership and aggression). He’s the hot guy who doesn’t give a fuck.
Alpha traits (on their own) are the most desirable for producing offspring. This is contrasted with Beta traits which are most desirable for nurturing offspring. The woman likes the Alpha for his good genes, which gives her offspring the best chance to survive and thrive.
Because the Alpha traits are not associated with nurturing, a woman can objectify a man for his physicality alone and be extremely attracted to him, cause her to desire to sleep with him, but not cause her to seek a long term pair-bond with him. This is why women are capable of one night stands, but reserve that privilege for the exceptionally hot guys. She fucks him for fun.
The Alpha’s sexual strategy is genetic continuation through numbers. He spreads his genes far and wide by having as many mating partners as possible without giving much thought to the welfare and upbringing of his progeny.
Beta Traits
Beta traits relate to provisioning and investment potential. A man presents Beta traits when he signals being able and willing to invest his time and resources into the upbringing of her children (he may not know it, but he might also be investing into children that are not of his lineage).
Beta traits (on their own) are the most desirable for nurturing offspring. This is contrasted with Alpha Fux traits which are the most desirable for producing offspring. Beta traits ensure that her children have the best chance of being taken care of after conception thus increasing their chances to survive and thrive. If anything happens to her, the man can be there to care for her children.
Because Beta traits are not associated with sexual desire, a woman may choose a Beta male for his provisioning without much thought to sexual desirability. This is why women can marry their best friends. This is why women can be in a long term relationship without much sex involved. She chose him for his Beta potential, not because of raw sexual attraction for him. This is why the man she ultimately settles down with is not the hottest guy she’s been with. She fucks him not for fun (maybe sometimes), but to secure his commitment.
The Beta’s sexual strategy is quality. He picks one mate to have children with and invests all his resources into the upbringing of those children.
Which is more desirable with Asian women?
This is not an easy question to answer. Ideally, the best of both traits are present in the same man. However this is rarely the case. Most men have some of both traits with a skew towards the Beta.
Alpha traits cause the pull of the girl to be easier. If you want to live a pure playboy idgaf lifestyle you can choose to develop and nurture more Alpha traits within you. You can’t do much about height, but you can boost your Alpha traits by keeping a low body fat percentage, developing muscle tone, grooming well, developing an abundance mindset and cultivating a true idgaf my way or the highway attitude. Just be warned that by emphasising pure Alpha traits, you are eliminating a lot of dating options in Asia, because the Beta traits are more desirable here compared with the West. The trade off is that whilst you eliminate dating candidates, the dating process is more streamline/simple and you can “hire” and “fire” quickly.
Beta traits actually make it easier to date in Asia because long term pairbonding is in higher demand. Asian culture is more conservative and family values still hold strong in the community. Asian women are therefore brought up to seek Beta traits in their pair-bonds. This is why many Asian marriages are sexless. Remember, Beta =/= raw sexual desire.
You can still have Beta traits and live a playboy lifestyle. You can feign Beta traits (but inside you really dgaf). By cultivating Beta traits, you open yourself to a wider pool of dating candidates when you present yourself as boyfriend/husband material. The trade off is that you may feel dishonest by leading women on, and ending relationships are harder with you present more Beta traits. You might feel guilty when you live a playboy lifestyle with various women who think you are the one. I say fuck it. Women ghost men and branch swing when they fancy. Sexual strategy is amoral.
When Beta traits work against you
Understand that presenting Beta traits heavily can lead to a miserable relationship for the both of you. When you present too Beta she loses respect for you because you would compromise too much of yourself and your purpose to accommodate provisioning for her and her children. You give up a part of your autonomy. Not sexy.
When she feels like she can control you / loses respect for you she cannot feel the tingles for you. She only feels those tingles when you present Alpha traits. She becomes one of those naggy Asian aunties. Nightmare wives you do not want. You know what I am talking about. That screaming aunty berating her husband. Makes a man shudder.
In an ideal monogamous long-term relationship (LTR) you skew heavier towards the Alpha traits and only present Beta traits to the extent that she can feel assured that you will nurture her children and nothing more. You will not budge too much. You still live your life exactly the way you want to. A good ratio is 80:20 Alpha to Beta.
Alpha and Beta in the Relationship Timeline
This is the nuance in this dichotomy. Understand that it is not black and white. Most relationships start out from a place of attraction where the male unknowingly presents Alpha to the lady. She become attracted to him and they pair-bond. She treats him well, respects him, fucks him often and is feminine around him.
Overtime this usually changes. The cause is one of two things. One, the man was never truly Alpha in the first place. He was lucky enough to present it long enough to attract her (a facade). Two, the man was truly Alpha but he was not educated in sexual dynamics. He loves her so much that he feels like he needs to make compromises for the sake of the relationship and start to incorporate Beta traits within himself. She uses emotional blackmail to get him to “change” and become “better”. Overtime he skews too heavy towards Beta and she loses the respect and attraction she used to have for him. Do not let her “change” you. She thinks it’s what she wants but it will kill the attraction and respect.
Another common situation is where she pair-bonds with a man who presented mostly Beta and she never thought he was Alpha. You know this story. The man who gets stuck in the friendzone relentlessly pursues the woman until she gives up. She likes the way the Beta treats her. But there is no attraction or respect. She owns his ass and every major decision in the relationship is hers. Do not be this guy.
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