Women want what other women want.
When a woman finds out that a number of other women are interested in you something interesting happens to her. Her initial reaction is a negative one. She feels anxious, unsettled and jealous. This doesn’t only happen to women you’re seeing, but also your friends and acquaintances.
That feeling is caused because you raised her perception of your Sexual Market Value (SMV) which doesn’t always cause a positive reaction. Women don’t like being wrong. Her feeling these negative things isn’t a bad thing. When you raise her perception of your SMV like that she needs a way to consolidate your new SMV and see if you’re really all that. She’ll do this by stress testing you and might throw you one of these:
“I think that girl likes you, what do you think?”
“Why are you even dating me?”
“What are we?”
If you can pass her test, then your new SMV consolidates. In her mind you will be viewed as presenting more Alpha and you should notice some positive changes. Most notably, her sex drive could increase, she could initiate sex more often, and she might be much less likely to B-Bomb.
Why Preselection Works
When humans were evolving women adapted to accept social cues as a survival mechanism – more so than men. They relied on consensus and not straying from group think to survive.
Consensus included the attractiveness of men. When a woman sees that the other women found one man sexually desirable, she would be more inclined to think and feel the same. She would’t do so in an attempt to fit in, rather, she would genuinely feel the attraction as a result of seeing other women attracted. This increased her chances of mating with the best genes. If the other women thought he was hot surely they can’t all be wrong.
Preselection in Asia
Asian men are considered less attractive in the dating market. That being said preselection has worked wonders for Korean men. Just look at this example:
Korean men’s SMVs were collectively raised as a result of KPop because womankind as a whole began noticing that women were gravitating towards these Kpop stars. It makes a woman think, “there must be something about Korean men then”.
Practical Application
You need to hack your whole life so that you present as though you have preselection. If you do this successfully you start off with a high SMV perception right off the bat and it’ll be easier to make her chase you instead of you chasing her.
Try to include more female friends in your social circle. The more attractive they are the better. She’ll constantly worry that anyone in that group might try and steal you away. Even better, she might be worried that you have already slept with, and/or are sleeping with, someone in that group. She can’t help but feel that if you’re always around attractive women. She might say that she trusts you but believe me she’s wired to think and behave otherwise.
Harmlessly flirt with women. Don’t cross any lines but make it clear that you’re comfortable and are capable of talking to other women. Make them laugh. Get your love interest to get used to the idea that you can talk up beautiful women.
At this point you might worry that she might get back at you and do the same by hanging out with more men. We say don’t sweat it as she would rarely take that step. If she suddenly feels the need to hang around more men in response to you hanging around more women then we’re sorry to say that you might have a vindictive woman and you’ll have to evaluate whether you want to keep her in your life. We think vindictive women are possibly the worst to date.
As an aside, you need to be prepared in the event that she tries to throw your game back at you. This is how you handle it: let her do it and do not let it affect you emotionally. You handle it the same you handle a shit test. Use amused mastery and just be entertained by the whole spectacle. Say she’s talking to a man right now, go up to her, talk to the guy in a friendly way, ask her if she’s okay and leave. Talk to other people. Don’t start a fight. She’ll be impressed at best, and at worst your SMV remains unaffected.
You need to have this mindset: the things you do may appear diabolical and manipulative but at the end of the day you’re doing it to improve your SMV. That can only be good for her and your relationship because once she adapts to your new SMV she’ll have greater respect for you and she’ll be more fulfilled in the relationship. Have pure intentions in mind and always think about the big picture: you want a better relationship.
The best way to use preselection is to make it obvious and apparent. We mean this in a way where just looking and talking to you for awhile makes it clear that other women may be interested. We don’t mean tell her straight that you have a lot of women interested. When you do things that generally improve your SMV then it’ll be clear that other women would be interested in you. Obvious things would be grooming better, getting in better shape, having better posture, having an interesting social life and growing your bank account.
Doing these things will improve your general swagger. It’ll start to cause women to turn their heads as you walk down the street. If your love interest sees this, it’ll raise her attraction for you because of preselection.
Warning
It’s easy to come across as ‘fake’ when you try to use and display preselection. We say don’t be too obvious about it and don’t talk about it. Don’t be the guy who blurts out mid-date, “yeah I was on a date last night I go on a lot of dates all the time”.
Much better if you simply incorporate preselection into your life and let her find out that other women want you. Subtly leave clues and let you as a person speak for itself.
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