Foreplay has “romantic” and touchy-feely connotations. It makes a man think that if he does too much foreplay, it’s not manly. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can have extended foreplay and make her feel dominated.
The keys are: presence and pace.
Presence
A common complaint amongst women is that men are not fully present during foreplay. This may be hard to believe, but they can sense when you’re not fully into it.
Kiss every inch of her body and make it last at least 10 mins. During that time make sure you are present. Be aware of how she smells, tastes, and listen to the sounds she make. When she moans stay there for awhile.
Being present just makes the entire experience better for her. Your experience will improve as well because as you feel every inch of her body you’ll also sense her getting turned on, which will turn you on. When you’re more turned on the quality of your erection improves.
Pace
Switch it up and go from slow to fast. Repeat.
Going slow means taking your time and kissing her lips and body slowly. Go up and down her body and then pick up the pace and really ravish her. Increase the pressure of your lips, body and hands on hers and move around her body faster. Increase the pace and depth of your breath and moan. Engage in hair pulling and light spanking.
When going fast, don’t hesitate to throw her around the room. You can press her up against the wall with the weight of your body (place your hand behind her head first). Be as rough as you want, just don’t injure her. Thump your chest, make silly noises (grunts). It’s all foreplay. Foreplay doesn’t have to be ghey.
When Foreplay is not Necessary
Foreplay is not always necessary. When a woman is so impressed with your SMV and is already really turned on for whatever reason she doesn’t need foreplay. She’s ready to go.
When she initiates sex, she’s also usually ready to go. A quick way to check is to see if she’s wet.
That being said, even when you deem it unnecessary, a little foreplay can still improve the experience. Foreplay is essentially teasing and the more you tease her the more turned on she can become.
Just make sure you employ longer foreplay when you sense she’s not ‘ready to go’. Take your time to get her turned on and only then do you whip it out.
Bonus Pointers
Quit Porn
Porn desensitises you from feeling everything you can when you are with your woman. It’ll damage the quality of your erection and you won’t engage as well with the foreplay experience.
When you jack off to porn you don’t engage in foreplay with the computer. You don’t start licking the laptop everywhere. You’re training your body to think that foreplay is not a component of sex and therefore when you engage in foreplay, it won’t turn you on as much. She’ll be able to sense this and it’ll affect how turned on she is.
Talk Dirty
Women love this – even during foreplay. It’s one of the things you can use to have a dominating feel about the foreplay experience.
Some examples you can try:
- If she’s smaller than you, you can say, “You’re so small baby I feel like I can throw you around the room”. Then proceed to manhandle her.
- Ask her questions and then spank her lightly when she answers. Ask her, “who’s my babygirl” and when she answers, “I am”, spank her and say, “that’s right baby”.
- Kiss her shoulder from behind, grab a handful of her hair, yank and say, “I’m gonna fuck you up babygirl”.
Doing these things will really ramp up her arousal. Play around with it!
Learn Cunnilingus
This counts as foreplay. Make it a general rule that you give her at least one clitoral orgasm before you start fucking. It’ll put her into an orgasmic state and it’ll make the sex feel better.
Save the Nips and Clit
This is part of the teasing. Make it a general rule that you do not go for the nips and clit until you’ve teased her enough. You can grab her breasts (without putting focus on her nipples) and ass. Kiss and tease her entire body and when you sense she’s really wanting it then go for the nips – then clit.
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