Some of you girls are well meaning and have a boyfriend or husband who’s… let’s say sub-par. He might be chubby. Maybe he doesn’t really have a direction in life. Maybe he lets you dictate the relationship and lets you walk all over him. Not sexy.
But you’re a “good” person. You love this dude enough anyway to stick around (maybe until you get a better offer?). You hope that you can make him better for you.
It Won’t Work
In the grand scheme of your life, he won’t make you happy. You’ll never be crazy attracted to him. He’ll never truly have your respect. Deep down you are going to be deeply unsatisfied.
Let’s say you go to the men’s section of this blog and give him all the seduction tips you’ve learned. You tell him to use them on you. Would that work?
It won’t work. It is not a genuine change from him. You’ll hate that you had to tell him to change. You want a man who just gets it.
The changes will only work on you if he genuinely arrives at those changes by himself.
It’s like doing the dishes. You’re happiest if he does it himself. If you have to tell him to clean his plate and he does it, yes you get a clean plate, but you hate that you had to tell him to do it.
Attraction and Respect
At this point you might be thinking, it’s not all about sex. I can love the person and not want to ride his dick all the time.
That’s true. That’s platonic love, and to some extent romantic love. Overtime you can get attached to a beta simp – no matter how sad he is – and mistake that attachment for love.
The healthiest and most satisfactory relationship dynamic you can have with your man is if you are attracted to him. Sexually. It doesn’t have to just be a physical thing. You just “dig” him as a whole. He’s strong. He’s steady. You trust him with your relationship and your life. You feel safe around him. Over time, you develop a profound respect. This is the kind of relationship dynamic that can truly fulfil you.
Solution
Faced with a sub-par man, you might try to fix him and be unsatisfied for the rest of your life. Or, you could leave him and find someone worth your time.
Word of warning, the guy who is worth your time probably has other options. Why should he choose you? Read this to give him a reason. But it’s a gamble. Leave your safe thing to chase fulfilment? You might fail. Play carefully.
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